I've met people who are deeply, madly and weirdly, haha you heard that right, in love with themselves.
I've even met a few who hate themselves. (Including my best friend who used to dislike herself a while ago)
If you see clearly, then there's a deep line that divides these two kinds of people.
People falling in the very first category know that whatever they do, they will remain on the right path because ups and downs are a part of life. And even if they fall on the wrong one, they have ample amount of self encouragement to bring themselves back on track.
Talking about the people from second category, well, even if they do little mistakes, they start hating themselves for committing those.
Little do these kinds of people know that self love can motivate them to make healthy choices. Hence, preventing those from hating themselves for committing mistakes.
Some people equate self love to selfishness. But that's not true.
If you start believing in this then it'll be difficult for you to take care of yourself.
Putting your own needs first is not a crime. And it's totally okay.
If the other person dislikes you for saying 'no' despite of knowing that you feel uncomfortable or unavailable then you know who's toxic or selfish for that matter.
But here's a good news -- when you start taking care of yourself fully and the love you spread to other people also touches you, then you become the best version of yourself and guess what? You won't even think about selfishness here.
Isn't that great hah?
You know yourself better than anyone else even if that means your closest sibling to your best friend. When you feel a disturbing emotion, your friends may help you to get through it, but they can never take you to the 'finish line' because they haven't experienced it the way you did.
So you are the one who'll use your own self in order to break the bubble of sadness.
When you accept yourself, then you start appreciating your flaws as well. This gives you a boost in improving your career, relationships and life.
That's right.
Have you ever seen a successful person looking at the mirror and yell, "Ugh! I hate myself"?
So dear one, self acceptance is the greatest key to your own happiness and success. The moment you start accepting yourself is the moment you start loving yourself without any conditions.
The biggest perk of loving yourself is that when you respect your own body, you begin respecting others too.
Which results in healthy and happy relationships.
Bud, no one would like you if you keep cursing yourself infront of them.
Your vibe will kill your tribe!
Here's one thing I'd like to clear,
Self love is different from narcissism.
A narcissist's self love is shallow. These people ignore their weakness and boast about their best qualities.
They need 'others' to fuel their self love. Without praises and adoration, their over confidence not only comes to an end but also in an unhealthy way.
Whereas people practicing self love are aware of their highs and lows, perfections and imperfections. They nurture themselves in order to seek happiness and have a healthy life.
And yes, self care isn't just about 'all words and no action'.
Here are 6 ways to take care of your precious self.
Stop comparing.
In today's world of social media and competition, everyone wants to be like their favourite influencers, but think about it. If everyone would look and think the same then what will remain different?
What will be unique?
Think.
Make your body blissful.
Think about it this way, imagine that you buy an expensive car. Now, how will you treat it?
Will you treat it with cheap products? Or with the ones having a good quality?
In the same way, take your body as the most precious thing in the world that no engineer or scientist can make. (Except our parents, ofcourse) Because our body deserves more attention than it gets. So get up and start moving. Put that aloe on your face and master the art of planking.
Explore yourself.
If you don't know what you love doing the most, start doing every kind of possible activity. The one that grabs your interest is the one that will give you happiness.
Create a ritual.
Turn off that phone in your hand and grab that face pack from your fridge. Put it on and relax. Read a book, listen to some refreshing podcasts, moisturize and rejuvenate.
Find your happy place.
Close your eyes and think of the nearest place or a spot in your town where you feel the happiest.
Go there and just sit.
Think about your life and yourself.
Don't forget to remind that 'letting go' of a few things isn't easy but worth living a life for.
Create a healthy environment.
Self love isn't just about loving yourself. It's about making your life 'stress-free' and 'peaceful'.
Cleaning and organizing your house, eliminating toxic people, and checking those grocery items off the list take time but they play an important role in having clear and a tranquil mind.
Remember the first line of this blog?
Yeah.
Your love for yourself can be as weird as you want it to be.
Afterall, It's your kind of love.
This was especially for you, Sona.
Very beneficial blog for people like me😅